We've all been there. Standing at the edge of something that feels impossibly difficult, our minds racing with worst-case scenarios, our confidence evaporating like morning mist. Whether it's a presentation at work, a difficult conversation, or stepping into an unfamiliar social situation, challenging moments have a way of making us forget everything we know about ourselves.
But what if there was a simple framework that could help you navigate these moments with more ease and self-assurance? Enter the Minimum and Maximum Approach: a practical tool for building confidence when you need it most.
Understanding the Confidence Paradox
Here's the paradox many of us face: we want to feel confident before we act, but confidence often comes from taking action. We set sky-high expectations for ourselves, then feel crushed when we don't meet them. This all-or-nothing thinking keeps us stuck, watching opportunities pass by while we wait to feel "ready enough."
The Minimum and Maximum Approach breaks this cycle by reframing how we think about success in challenging situations.
What Is the Minimum and Maximum Approach?
This approach is beautifully simple. Before entering any challenging situation, you define two things:
The Minimum: What's the smallest win you could achieve that would still count as success? This is your safety net, your guaranteed confidence boost. It should be entirely within your control and realistically achievable, even on your worst day.
The Maximum: What would an ideal outcome look like? This is your aspiration, the version where everything goes brilliantly. It's what you're aiming for when conditions are favourable and you're at your best.
By defining both, you create a range of success rather than a single, pressure-filled target.
Why This Approach Works
The brilliance of this method lies in its psychological foundation. Here's what makes it so effective:
- It removes the pressure of perfection. When you know that simply achieving your minimum means success, you can relax. This paradoxically makes it easier to perform well because you're not paralysed by the fear of failure.
- It builds momentum through small wins. Every time you hit your minimum, you're training your brain to see you as someone who succeeds in challenging situations. These small victories accumulate, genuinely building your confidence over time.
- It keeps you flexible. Some days you'll hit your maximum. Other days, you'll be grateful for your minimum. Both are legitimate successes, and this flexibility prevents the demotivation that comes from rigid expectations.
- It focuses on what you can control. Your minimum should always be based on actions you can take, not outcomes you can't guarantee. This internal locus of control is crucial for genuine confidence.
Putting It Into Practice
Let's look at how this works across different scenarios:
The Networking Event
- Minimum: Attend for 30 minutes and have one genuine conversation with another person. Exchange one contact detail.
- Maximum: Stay for the entire event, have meaningful conversations with five people, identify two potential collaborators, and follow up with concrete next steps.
Even if you only hit your minimum, you've succeeded. You showed up, you connected, and you proved to yourself that you can handle these situations. That's confidence-building gold.
The Difficult Conversation
- Minimum: Clearly state your main concern and listen to the other person's perspective without becoming defensive.
- Maximum: Have a productive dialogue that leads to mutual understanding, agree on specific action steps, and strengthen the relationship through honest communication.
Your minimum ensures the conversation happens and that you practice key communication skills, regardless of how the other person responds.
The Presentation
- Minimum: Deliver all your key points clearly, maintain composure throughout, and take one question from the audience.
- Maximum: Deliver an engaging presentation that sparks meaningful discussion, handle questions with ease and insight, and receive enthusiastic feedback.
Notice how the minimum is entirely in your control, while the maximum includes elements that depend on external factors like audience engagement.
Creating Your Own Minimums and Maximums
When setting your own parameters, keep these principles in mind:
Make your minimum genuinely achievable on a difficult day. If you're anxious, tired, or things aren't going your way, could you still accomplish this? If not, it's too ambitious.
Ensure your minimum is meaningful. It should be something that moves you forward, even if only slightly. It's not about lowering standards but about ensuring some form of progress.
Let your maximum inspire you. This is where you can be ambitious. What would truly excellent look like? Don't hold back here—just remember it's not the only definition of success.
Keep both focused on your actions, not others' reactions. You can control how you show up; you can't control how others respond.
The Long Game: Confidence Through Consistency
Here's what happens when you use this approach consistently: over time, your minimums become automatic. What once felt challenging becomes your baseline. And occasionally, you surprise yourself by hitting your maximum without even trying that hard.
This is genuine confidence building, the kind that isn't dependent on everything going perfectly or feeling a certain way before you act. It's confidence built on evidence—evidence that you can handle challenges, adapt to circumstances, and find success even when things don't go according to plan.
Your Invitation
The next time you're facing a challenging situation, try this approach. Before you step into that moment, take five minutes to write down your minimum and maximum. Then focus primarily on achieving that minimum while staying open to the maximum.
Notice how it feels to succeed, even in a small way. Pay attention to how this changes your approach to the next challenge. Watch how your confidence grows, not through positive thinking or affirmations, but through the accumulation of evidence that you are capable, adaptable, and resilient.
Because that's what real confidence is: not the absence of fear or challenge, but the knowledge that you can handle whatever comes your way.
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Take Your Confidence to the Next Level
If you're ready to develop a confidence mindset that will help you achieve your goals in life, Elite Mindset Coach Nick Ronald is offering free Discovery Call sessions to help you create your personalised confidence breakthrough plan.
During your Discovery Call, you'll:
- Identify the specific confidence blocks holding you back
- Gain clarity on your goals and what's really possible for you
- Discover the exact mindset shifts you need to make
- Learn how personalized coaching can accelerate your transformation
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